Author Archives: janieleeds

My Rom-Com Moment

Posted on October 19, 2021 by janieleeds

A few years ago, I returned to Spain where I had lived while in college. Back then, I met a boy with whom I fell in love. We dated for a year while I was there. Briefly, I considered returning … Continue reading →

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Falling In Love With Fall

Posted on October 18, 2021 by janieleeds

I love Fall. I love how the leaves change colors and how it starts to get chilly at night. In the romantic images that have been running through my head lately, I am sitting outside around a fire pit watching … Continue reading →

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Silent Gaslighting

Posted on October 16, 2021 by janieleeds

I just made up the term Silent Gaslighting because I think it’s a good way to explain what happened to me in the story below. If there’s a better term, just let me know. My first brush with the silent … Continue reading →

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Gaslighting

Posted on October 14, 2021 by janieleeds

I remember when I was married how I knew to just acquiesce in a fight because I wasn’t going to win. As the ex-wife of a narcissist, before I knew what it meant, I instinctively understood that for my own … Continue reading →

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Kindness For Fido’s Family

Posted on October 7, 2021 by janieleeds

My brother’s family has Covid even though they’re all vaxxed. Ten days after my brother’s first symptom, the dog got sick. You remember the dog, right? I pet sat Fido and Mr. Kitty a few months ago. Well, Fido’s not … Continue reading →

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Back In Town

Posted on October 6, 2021 by janieleeds

Blech. The ex has moved back in with his parents even though he’s a bigshot in a company states away. He’s been gone and only rarely came ‘home’ for holidays for the last few years. It was a relief for … Continue reading →

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Your Presence Is The Present You Give Your Kids

Posted on October 5, 2021 by janieleeds

Parenting 101 especially after divorce most important tip: Be present with your kids. Listen. Take the time and stop what you’re doing so that they feel like you’re listening to them, you’re hearing what they’re telling you and they feel … Continue reading →

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It’s Monday…

Posted on October 4, 2021 by janieleeds

I don’t know where the time is going to lately. Honestly, it feels like I turn around and poof! It’s Monday again and for the life of me I can’t tell you what happened last week. Probably because it seems … Continue reading →

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He Left

Posted on September 25, 2021 by janieleeds

I was talking with a friend yesterday and she brought up the fact that she thinks my saying, it’s been seven years since he left puts me in the victim mode. I felt like I had to defend my answer. … Continue reading →

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