Author Archives: janieleeds

When The Narcissist Says Don’t Cheat

Posted on December 17, 2022 by janieleeds

The ex began to tell me, “If you’re going to cheat, leave before you cheat, as it’s disrespectful.” In my mind this came out of nowhere as I would never cheat. I couldn’t understand his sudden obsession with saying this … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce | Tagged cheating husband, ex-wife of a narcissist, gaslighting, loophole, narcissist | 8 Comments

When All Signs Point To Cheating

Posted on December 15, 2022 by janieleeds

I have no doubt the ex cheated on me. There I said it. Or wrote it. There it is – in black and white. And I feel non-plussed by it. There’s no emotion behind it. Except that he’s a lying … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce | Tagged cheating husband, ex-wife of a narcissist, gaslighting, gay husband, signs of a liar, viagra, wedding rings, word salad | 18 Comments

Mark My Words

Posted on November 22, 2022 by janieleeds

Oh geez, I guess I’ve not heard it all. The ex told the kid that he got a concealed carry. Well, he has to take a class, but he’s got it. WHAT??? Does nobody but me think this is odd? … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce | Tagged ak47, concealed carry, ex-wife of a narcissist, gun, other life | 21 Comments

Part Deux As Promised

Posted on October 13, 2022 by janieleeds

My kid walked away for a few minutes and I settled down after I got my heart and mouth under control after our last conversation. Allowed…that word just did it for me as it did for many of you who … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce | Tagged cheating husband, ex-MIL, ex-wife of a narcissist, family, gaslighting, prenup, relationship between divorced parents and kids | 18 Comments

Narcissists, Butt Dialers and Manipulations, Oh My!

Posted on October 11, 2022 by janieleeds

That’s a mouthful of a title, isn’t it? Would you like to guess to whom I’m referring? Yup, you guessed it. The ex-MIL. The one I used to refer to as Marie Barone (from Everybody Loves Raymond). The ex’s mother. … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce | Tagged allowed, ex-MIL, ex-wife of a narcissist, family, holidays after divorce, kids and divorce, Marie Barone, relationships | 12 Comments

What Would You Do?

Posted on September 15, 2022 by janieleeds

I always find it troubling and startling how some people treat others, especially single women. I’m not trying to be bratty here or a feminist (God forbid I invoke that word), but seriously, lately it’s more rampant than normal. For … Continue reading →

Posted in #womenofacertainage, women 50 | Tagged business deal, difference between men and women, feminist, liars, vintage car, word salad | 20 Comments

I’m Fine

Posted on September 10, 2022 by janieleeds

It’s the kiss of death to hear someone say” I’m Fine.” At least for me because depending on how those two words are said, well, let’s just say there’s a world of difference! Of course we’ve all probably seen those … Continue reading →

Posted in women's health | Tagged communication, death, family, friends, mental health, National Suicide Prevention Day, relationships, suicide | 17 Comments

Something for Me – Beauty Edition

Posted on September 7, 2022 by janieleeds

Awhile back, I wrote about microblading my eyebrows. While it hurt to have it done, I am glad I did it, especially now when bushier brows are in. Luckily, it only lasts about 2 years which is fine with me … Continue reading →

Posted in #womenofacertainage | Tagged botox, dentist, eye lash lift, eye lash tint, fake eyelashes, lipstick, microblade eyebrows | 14 Comments

Starting Over

Posted on August 21, 2022 by janieleeds

I’ve started over many times. Heck everyday is a new start, isn’t it? So what’s different about how I’m feeling today? Well, I’m decluttering the house. There’s nobody home so it’s just me and I’m on my own schedule. Eating … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, heart | Tagged ice cream for breakfast, insomnia, kids and divorce, me time, relationships | 18 Comments