Category Archives: women 50

I’m Now Seeing A Younger Man Once A Week…

Posted on October 4, 2018 by janieleeds

Did I get your attention? I’m laughing because for those of you who know me, you’re wondering what I’m up to and for those that maybe don’t know me, you’re thinking – cougar? LOL Cougar…in my dreams…more laughter…hmmm….nah…. But no. … Continue reading →

Posted in addiction, finding happiness at 50, women 50 | Tagged advice, changes, cougar, dating after divorce, gym, hate to exercise, increase self-esteem, personal trainer, quit smoking | 15 Comments

I Joined A Gym

Posted on September 27, 2018 by janieleeds

I know what you’re thinking. After the whole CrossFit failure, you’re probably wondering why I joined a gym. Well, I am too because I hate to work out. Sweating to the oldies felt more fun so how the heck I … Continue reading →

Posted in finding happiness at 50, women 50 | Tagged crossfit, endorphin, free trial, gym buddy, gym membership, hate to exercise, lose weight, motivation to go to the gym, need advice, richard simmons, sweating to the oldies, working out | 10 Comments

Finding The Tool Kit Of Independence

Posted on August 31, 2018 by janieleeds

My toilet needed help as it wasn’t working properly. The chain that connects the stopper to the metal arm had broken. It broke awhile ago and I rigged it with a safety pin which worked great for awhile until it … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, women 50 | Tagged do it yourself, fixing a toilet, house repairs, I can do it, single mom problem | 12 Comments

Stop Suffering

Posted on August 12, 2018 by janieleeds

The root of suffering is attachment. – The Buddha I saw this quote today and felt like kicking myself. Not literally kicking myself mind you, but figuratively because I’m tired of suffering. I was attached, attached to the past for … Continue reading →

Posted in addiction, divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love, women 50 | Tagged ex-wife of a narcissist, hindsight, let go of the past, painful memories, spiritual healing, the buddha, the root of suffering is attachment, you've come a long way baby | 4 Comments

Change Your Attitude and Embrace 50!

Posted on August 8, 2018 by janieleeds

Few people agree with me that turning 50 was a great milestone. A lot of my friends are bemoaning middle age, but not me. I changed the way I looked at my life. I chose to look at turning 50 … Continue reading →

Posted in 50 years old, divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love, women 50 | Tagged #fiftyandforward, acceptance, beliefs, changes, embrace where you are, fifty and forward, freedom to be me, gratitude, love, please yourself, truth | 15 Comments

Tips To Make Conversation Easier With A Narcissistic Ex

Posted on July 24, 2018 by janieleeds

If you’re still tied to your former spouse who’s a narcissist, you know how hard it is to have a conversation with them. Because even if we can clearly see that they’re narcissistic, there’s still that piece that remembers the … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love, women 50 | Tagged all's fair in love and war, be an observer, breaking bad habits, do you want to be right or happy, ex-wife of a narcissist, how to deal with narcissist, mike tyson, thriver | 12 Comments

I Needed A Hug

Posted on July 20, 2018 by janieleeds

It’s been a long week and I’m tired. I couldn’t even manage to make dinner last night so we got take out. While we sat there eating pizza, I tried to rally my gratitude that the kids and I are … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, women 50 | Tagged break down to rebuild, cry, feeling alone, Friday, gratitude, grief, letting out the grief, matriarch, need a hug, relationships, single mom parenting, the problem with being the strong one, what I miss about being married | 18 Comments

Ways To Fill Your Free Time After Divorce

Posted on July 17, 2018 by janieleeds

I think the hardest part for me after the divorce was to find a way to fill my unexpected free time. Because when the kids see their dad occasionally, I am alone and I have nothing to do. I had … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, music, women 50 | Tagged dancing, enjoy your free time when kids are with your ex, find yourself after break up, life after divorce, list of things to do after divorce, staying busy, what to do with your free time after divorce | 14 Comments

I Won’t Be Narc Bait Anymore

Posted on July 5, 2018 by janieleeds

I was raised by narcissistic parents in addition to a narc brother. Trained by the narcs, I am a people pleaser, a fixer and I wear my heart on my sleeve. I love deeply. I am an empath. I don’t … Continue reading →

Posted in addiction, divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love, women 50 | Tagged bad behavior, dating after divorce, empath, healing, narcissist abuse, narcissist relationship, NPD, wolf in sheep's clothing | 14 Comments