Tag Archives: co-dependent

Struggles After The Holidays

Posted on November 27, 2021 by janieleeds

I’ve talked about how I used to have to deprogram my kids after they spent extensive time with their dad and their dad’s family. It would take a few days to detoxify them and stand up to the one who … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce | Tagged co-dependent, deprogram the kids, ex-wife of a narcissist, family, kids and divorce, life lessons | 13 Comments

Be Careful What You Say To Your Kids

Posted on November 9, 2020 by janieleeds

Growing up, I was the elder of two kids with strict parents. Right from the start, I was told that I was the smart, responsible one and that I was also the ‘peace-maker’ so it was my job to keep … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged co-dependent, dysfunctional childhood, empath, parenting advice, relationship between divorced parents and kids, sibling rivalry | 14 Comments

Who Died And Made You Boss?

Posted on November 6, 2020 by janieleeds

As my father used to say, Who the hell died and made you boss? To which now, I would retort, You! But at the time, I was a little girl in a dysfunctional family who was just trying to survive. … Continue reading →

Posted in finding happiness at 50 | Tagged anorexia, co-dependent, dysfunctional childhood, seeing a therapist | 10 Comments

Here I Am….

Posted on September 29, 2020 by janieleeds

Being honest here, I’ve told myself many lies over the years. I tried, with my rose-colored glasses firmly planted on my eyes, to make excuses for bad behavior from the people around me. I was co-dependent, having been trained from … Continue reading →

Posted in #womenofacertainage, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged co-dependent, ex-wife of a narcissist, limiting beliefs | 6 Comments

Independence Day

Posted on July 4, 2020 by janieleeds

Don’t let the title fool you. Although I’m happy that it’s the 4th of July, I want to talk about your Independence Day. Your personal Independence Day. The day you finally realized that THIS IS YOUR LIFE TO LIVE HOW … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged be yourself, childhood role, co-dependent, freedom, good girl syndrome, Higher Power | 2 Comments

You Held Me Down…And I Let It Happen

Posted on March 28, 2020 by janieleeds

I had this epiphany recently that I allowed so many people in my life hold me down because they wanted me to be a certain way. It started in childhood. I was to be perfect all the time. Perfect in … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged break free, co-dependent, conditional love, grief, kids and divorce, spiritual healing | 10 Comments

The Mirage

Posted on September 22, 2019 by janieleeds

I own the fact that I wanted to see the good in him. Isn’t that what we’re taught? To see the good in other people? To give them the benefit of the doubt? To see beyond the brokenness? To help … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged co-dependent, ex-wife of a narcissist, freedom, red flags, relationships | 4 Comments

A Single Girl’s Lesson From Divorce

Posted on April 26, 2019 by janieleeds

It took me awhile to learn this lesson, but it’s an important one. I don’t need a man to complete me. That being said, I would like to find a nice man to get to know and to one day … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged co-dependent, ex-wife of a narcissist, healing after divorce, kids and divorce, life after divorce, relationships, single mom parenting | 12 Comments