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Struggles After The Holidays

I’ve talked about how I used to have to deprogram my kids after they spent extensive time with their dad and their dad’s family. It would take a few days to detoxify them and stand up to the one who … Continue reading

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Be Careful What You Say To Your Kids

Growing up, I was the elder of two kids with strict parents. Right from the start, I was told that I was the smart, responsible one and that I was also the ‘peace-maker’ so it was my job to keep … Continue reading

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Who Died And Made You Boss?

As my father used to say, Who the hell died and made you boss?  To which now, I would retort, You!  But at the time, I was a little girl in a dysfunctional family who was just trying to survive.  … Continue reading

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Here I Am….

Being honest here, I’ve told myself many lies over the years.  I tried, with my rose-colored glasses firmly planted on my eyes, to make excuses for bad behavior from the people around me.  I was co-dependent, having been trained from … Continue reading

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Independence Day

Don’t let the title fool you.  Although I’m happy that it’s the 4th of July, I want to talk about your Independence Day.  Your personal Independence Day.  The day you finally realized that THIS IS YOUR LIFE TO LIVE HOW … Continue reading

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You Held Me Down…And I Let It Happen

I had this epiphany recently that I allowed so many people in my life hold me down because they wanted me to be a certain way.  It started in childhood.  I was to be perfect all the time.  Perfect in … Continue reading

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The Mirage

I own the fact that I wanted to see the good in him.  Isn’t that what we’re taught?  To see the good in other people?  To give them the benefit of the doubt?  To see beyond the brokenness?  To help … Continue reading

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A Single Girl’s Lesson From Divorce

It took me awhile to learn this lesson, but it’s an important one.  I don’t need a man to complete me.  That being said, I would like to find a nice man to get to know and to one day … Continue reading

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