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Back In Town

Posted on October 6, 2021 by janieleeds

Blech. The ex has moved back in with his parents even though he’s a bigshot in a company states away. He’s been gone and only rarely came ‘home’ for holidays for the last few years. It was a relief for … Continue reading →

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Fear

Posted on May 11, 2021 by janieleeds

Last night the fear had me in its talons. Locked in a cage, cemented by the endless horrific lists of ‘what if’s’ that stealthily swirled in my brain. So much uncertainty lately with outside forces that make life harder than … Continue reading →

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“Poor Daddy”

Posted on March 10, 2021 by janieleeds

I’m venting. Sorry, but here’s part of the whole sob story from my son about his dad (the ex) from his dad’s visit a few weekends ago. Yup, it finally came out. “Mom, I think he’s changed.” “Really? What makes … Continue reading →

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A Momentary Seesaw

Posted on February 20, 2021 by janieleeds

I got an unusual call yesterday from a man who was investigating the ex. While I daren’t go into more detail, I will say that it amused me greatly. Because funny enough, the ex had to put me down as … Continue reading →

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Stop Comparing The Past To The Present

Posted on December 1, 2020 by janieleeds

It’s amazing how we can adapt to a simpler life if we only allow ourselves to stop comparing the past to the present. – Janie Leeds During the good years of marriage, it was wonderful. We enjoyed a comfortable lifestyle … Continue reading →

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Triggered

Posted on June 4, 2020 by janieleeds

My kids heard from their dad and grandparents yesterday.  I wasn’t aware that they were talking to them until I overheard their voices.  And while I’m not usually an angry person, it triggered something in me that I hadn’t felt … Continue reading →

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When Men Get Divorced, Why Do They Stop Paying?

Posted on March 4, 2019 by janieleeds

Many women complain that men, after they get divorced, stop paying financially and also emotionally for their kids.  It’s like once they’re liberated from their family unit, they cut the ties irrevocably.  Maybe it’s guilt that disconnects them because they … Continue reading →

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Calling You Out

Posted on September 25, 2017 by janieleeds

Dear EX, I’m getting close to calling you out.  My frustration levels are increasing with your silent treatment.  You claim to put the kids first, but it is you whom you put first as the kids have told me that … Continue reading →

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