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Silent Gaslighting

Posted on October 16, 2021 by janieleeds

I just made up the term Silent Gaslighting because I think it’s a good way to explain what happened to me in the story below. If there’s a better term, just let me know. My first brush with the silent … Continue reading →

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Gaslighting

Posted on October 14, 2021 by janieleeds

I remember when I was married how I knew to just acquiesce in a fight because I wasn’t going to win. As the ex-wife of a narcissist, before I knew what it meant, I instinctively understood that for my own … Continue reading →

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Be Careful What You Say To Your Kids

Posted on November 9, 2020 by janieleeds

Growing up, I was the elder of two kids with strict parents. Right from the start, I was told that I was the smart, responsible one and that I was also the ‘peace-maker’ so it was my job to keep … Continue reading →

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I’m Teary Today

Posted on February 6, 2020 by janieleeds

It’s a drizzly day here so maybe that’s the reason.  Maybe the gloomy weather has me down.  Maybe it’s that there has been a lot of sadness in my life lately as three people passed away.  Not directly related to … Continue reading →

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Narcissists Spin The Story

Posted on April 29, 2019 by janieleeds

To keep you on your toes, narcissists spin the story of whatever they’re telling you.  Listen closely, because depending upon whom they’re talking with, the story may change.  Outright lies, embellishments of the truth and even small nuances are part … Continue reading →

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Don’t Ignore The Red Flags

Posted on August 17, 2018 by janieleeds

Before dating after a breakup, here’s a little advice. DON’T IGNORE THE RED FLAGS! What do I mean by that?  Well, if you read yesterday’s post, you’ll see how in talking with Steve, I was feeling interested because I felt … Continue reading →

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I No Longer Believe You

Posted on July 27, 2018 by janieleeds

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche Above is a common quote on the internet, but the real quote is: “Not that you lied to me … Continue reading →

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We Just Want To Be Loved

Posted on July 26, 2018 by janieleeds

Why did you fall for the narcissist? Because you just wanted to be loved. How can you make sure you don’t make that mistake again? Love yourself. – Janie Leeds It’s not that we don’t love ourselves that we fall … Continue reading →

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When Clarity Brings Divinity

Posted on July 12, 2018 by janieleeds

I can’t even begin to tell you how much better I am feeling as I go through this process of realizing how the narcissists in my life have evolved.  I don’t blame them for being who they are and I … Continue reading →

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