Tag Archives: good girl syndrome

Who Controls You?

Posted on April 5, 2021 by janieleeds

Sometimes I look back on my life since the ex left and wonder what the heck I’ve accomplished? And then I realize all that I have done and I feel a little better. There’s been a lot of upheaval in … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration | Tagged childhood memories, good girl syndrome, removing blockages, TikTok | 11 Comments

Independence Day

Posted on July 4, 2020 by janieleeds

Don’t let the title fool you. Although I’m happy that it’s the 4th of July, I want to talk about your Independence Day. Your personal Independence Day. The day you finally realized that THIS IS YOUR LIFE TO LIVE HOW … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged be yourself, childhood role, co-dependent, freedom, good girl syndrome, Higher Power | 2 Comments

Triggered

Posted on June 4, 2020 by janieleeds

My kids heard from their dad and grandparents yesterday. I wasn’t aware that they were talking to them until I overheard their voices. And while I’m not usually an angry person, it triggered something in me that I hadn’t felt … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged deadbeat dad, ex-wife of a narcissist, family getting involved in divorce, good girl syndrome, healing after divorce, narcissist abuse, truth | 10 Comments

Take The High Road

Posted on November 27, 2018 by janieleeds

I always try to take the high road when I can. It’s innate in me because I want everyone in my life to be happy and I don’t like giving up or being blamed for anything. It’s an insecurity of … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50 | Tagged abandonment, advice, being a single parent, disconnection, ex-wife of a narcissist, good girl syndrome, holidays after divorce, kids and divorce, people pleaser, relationship between divorced parents and kids | 11 Comments

Feeding Both Wolves

Posted on August 27, 2018 by janieleeds

I don’t know if you’ve heard the story about the wise grandfather who tells his grandson about the two wolves fighting inside each of us. While I’m shortening the parable so that I don’t bore you by being long-winded, the … Continue reading →

Posted in addiction, divorce, finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged bad girl, crossfit, ex-wife of a narcissist, feed the good wolf, good girl syndrome, good vs bad, healing after divorce, quitting smoking, relationships, two wolves fighting, wolf parable | 4 Comments

Is This What We Signed Up For?

Posted on March 2, 2018 by janieleeds

I have asked myself that question repeatedly over the years. Did I really sign up for this crazy? The narcissist relationships that have me bugging out with insomnia? I’m a fixer by nature and over the years, I repeatedly put … Continue reading →

Posted in 50 years old, divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love, women 50 | Tagged bad behavior, crazy, ego, family, good girl syndrome, life, marriage, narcissist, peace, self-worth, spiritual healing, toxic relationships | 2 Comments

Attracting Narcissists

Posted on November 29, 2017 by janieleeds

If you know the word narcissist and you’ve found that you have some in your life, you may be wondering how the hell did I attract them? As I’ve gotten healthier, I’ve realized the secret to the bunch of narcissists … Continue reading →

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged connecting with people, disconnection, family, good girl syndrome, healthy love, kids come first, learning to love me, narcissist | 27 Comments

Telling The Unpopular Truth

Posted on October 1, 2017 by janieleeds

I found myself in a sticky situation for which I decided to take control of recently. I’m tired of being the one holding the unpopular truth and being stifled by people who wear blinders in order to continue to believe … Continue reading →

Posted in 50 years old, divorce | Tagged family getting involved in divorce, good girl syndrome, lies, shoot the messenger, telling the truth | 10 Comments