Tag Archives: narcissist abuse

Silent Gaslighting

Posted on October 16, 2021 by janieleeds

I just made up the term Silent Gaslighting because I think it’s a good way to explain what happened to me in the story below. If there’s a better term, just let me know. My first brush with the silent … Continue reading →

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Gaslighting

Posted on October 14, 2021 by janieleeds

I remember when I was married how I knew to just acquiesce in a fight because I wasn’t going to win. As the ex-wife of a narcissist, before I knew what it meant, I instinctively understood that for my own … Continue reading →

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Back In Town

Posted on October 6, 2021 by janieleeds

Blech. The ex has moved back in with his parents even though he’s a bigshot in a company states away. He’s been gone and only rarely came ‘home’ for holidays for the last few years. It was a relief for … Continue reading →

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Door Nailed Shut

Posted on January 29, 2021 by janieleeds

I only ever wanted to have closure. I had hoped that when we divorced, we could stay kind, but that was not meant to be. We couldn’t even co-parent. Not to mention, the ex’s narcissistic mother was inserting herself into … Continue reading →

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When The Narcissist Comes Back To Town

Posted on June 7, 2020 by janieleeds

it’s been a rough weekend so far.  The ex has come back to town and it’s always messy when he does.  As the ex-wife of a narcissist, I am staying out of the situation, but watching it unravel is exhausting. … Continue reading →

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Triggered

Posted on June 4, 2020 by janieleeds

My kids heard from their dad and grandparents yesterday.  I wasn’t aware that they were talking to them until I overheard their voices.  And while I’m not usually an angry person, it triggered something in me that I hadn’t felt … Continue reading →

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Your First Fight Will Be Your Last

Posted on February 23, 2020 by janieleeds

I had an interesting conversation with a friend who’s divorced the other day.  She’d read an article that discussed how when you remember back to the first fight you had with your partner (and you were now broken up/separated/divorced) you … Continue reading →

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But What About My Side Of The Story?

Posted on December 11, 2019 by janieleeds

Learn to be ok with people not knowing your side of the story.  You have nothing to prove to anyone.  – Anonymous I’ve heard through the grapevine (and my kids) that my in-laws (now ex-laws) and their father (now the … Continue reading →

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Posted on November 21, 2019 by janieleeds

It’s been a long road of learning since the divorce.  It’s been a hard journey for me – full of shocking, eye-opening facts that I turned a blind heart to because I didn’t want my life to change.  I loved … Continue reading →

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